Comments on: The Purpose Of Discipline http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/ Wed, 08 Sep 2010 13:36:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Tobey Van Wormer http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1721 Tobey Van Wormer Mon, 18 Jan 2010 15:48:48 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1721 Pastor Tom, Thank you for helping put discipline into a Godly perspective! I have always equated discipline with punishment and not learning...I thank you and I feel my kids will also thank you (hahahaha). Pastor Tom,

Thank you for helping put discipline into a Godly perspective! I have always equated discipline with punishment and not learning…I thank you and I feel my kids will also thank you (hahahaha).

]]> By: La Shai Hamilton http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1715 La Shai Hamilton Mon, 18 Jan 2010 00:58:23 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1715 thank you for imparting such powerful wisdom in such a tender way. I was raised in a broken home where my biological father was imprisoned until my twenties and my mother remarried when I was 6. I believe my parents tried the best they could in their circumstances...i have learned and HEALED so much through my Gateway Church family and I am so excited that my husband and I are gaining such precious guidance from a "hand-picked" team of leaders...Pastor Tom, I appreciate this blog more than you know. I am constantly reminded that I have a chance to MAKE TIME to show my children God's love thank you for imparting such powerful wisdom in such a tender way. I was raised in a broken home where my biological father was imprisoned until my twenties and my mother remarried when I was 6. I believe my parents tried the best they could in their circumstances…i have learned and HEALED so much through my Gateway Church family and I am so excited that my husband and I are gaining such precious guidance from a “hand-picked” team of leaders…Pastor Tom, I appreciate this blog more than you know. I am constantly reminded that I have a chance to MAKE TIME to show my children God’s love

]]> By: Nancy Cave http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1714 Nancy Cave Mon, 18 Jan 2010 00:17:40 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1714 Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and insight on parenting young children. As a parent of two grown sons and a grown daughter with families of their own this has made me reflect back on a time of struggle with my boys in their teens. We were going through such a time of rebellion and out of sheer loss at what else to do I cried out to God and said "Lord, I have raised them in Your word, I have loved and encouraged them, and I have disciplined them in love and in frustration. What am I blinded to!" He spoke very clearly and said, " You are disciplining out of fear and a spirit of control. Do you truly trust me? Have faith in what you have prayed ...and trust them too! You will see change in you, and in them. They will make mistakes, just as you did and I took care of you. Now let go and let me answer your prayers." At that point I asked forgiveness and quit trying to control out of love and fear and instead disciplined in His love, and freedom :-) I remember this now that they are grown and have wonderful children of their own! Wonderful article, what a blessing! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and insight on parenting young children. As a parent of two grown sons and a grown daughter with families of their own this has made me reflect back on a time of struggle with my boys in their teens. We were going through such a time of rebellion and out of sheer loss at what else to do I cried out to God and said “Lord, I have raised them in Your word, I have loved and encouraged them, and I have disciplined them in love and in frustration. What am I blinded to!” He spoke very clearly and said, ” You are disciplining out of fear and a spirit of control. Do you truly trust me? Have faith in what you have prayed …and trust them too! You will see change in you, and in them. They will make mistakes, just as you did and I took care of you. Now let go and let me answer your prayers.” At that point I asked forgiveness and quit trying to control out of love and fear and instead disciplined in His love, and freedom :-) I remember this now that they are grown and have wonderful children of their own! Wonderful article, what a blessing!

]]> By: Marsia Van Wormer http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1702 Marsia Van Wormer Thu, 14 Jan 2010 19:32:33 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1702 Pastor Tom, Thank you for sharing your heart in this--ummm--very familiar and prevelant area in our lives right now! I love your view of discipline and embrace it coming from you as the source! love you~marsia Pastor Tom,

Thank you for sharing your heart in this–ummm–very familiar and prevelant area in our lives right now! I love your view of discipline and embrace it coming from you as the source!
love you~marsia

]]> By: Mike Wedige http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1689 Mike Wedige Wed, 13 Jan 2010 15:33:07 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1689 Great job Tom. Your life and family are a great reflection of your encouragement and teaching. Blessings... Great job Tom. Your life and family are a great reflection of your encouragement and teaching. Blessings…

]]> By: jan Lane http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1682 jan Lane Wed, 13 Jan 2010 07:16:59 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1682 This man know what he is talking about!! I love him! Great word honey!! This man know what he is talking about!! I love him! Great word honey!!

]]> By: Babs Coppedge http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1681 Babs Coppedge Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:56:38 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1681 Tom, This was a blog packed full of such good information, encouragement and life applicable points. I actually tweeted this line as soon as I read it and before I finished reading the full blog: "The singular focus of discipline is to teach our children how to respond to God by the way we allow them to respond to us." It seems so obvious, I had to wonder how it seemed so revelational to me. I've always held to the understanding that it is my job to reflect Jesus and to be able to naturally fall under the direction of God after they were no longer under our direction, but the way you phrased it puts it so succintly. Additionally, this line stopped me in my tracks: If we really understand this fact we will carefully craft our response to them knowing that our response is creating in them their impression of God!" That thought will now be running through my heart as I respond to my children from here on out ... and that's awesome. Thank you for sharing God's wisdom with us! Babs Tom,

This was a blog packed full of such good information, encouragement and life applicable points. I actually tweeted this line as soon as I read it and before I finished reading the full blog:

“The singular focus of discipline is to teach our children how to respond to God by the way we allow them to respond to us.”

It seems so obvious, I had to wonder how it seemed so revelational to me. I’ve always held to the understanding that it is my job to reflect Jesus and to be able to naturally fall under the direction of God after they were no longer under our direction, but the way you phrased it puts it so succintly.

Additionally, this line stopped me in my tracks:

If we really understand this fact we will carefully craft our response to them knowing that our response is creating in them their impression of God!”

That thought will now be running through my heart as I respond to my children from here on out … and that’s awesome.

Thank you for sharing God’s wisdom with us!

Babs

]]> By: Marissa Star http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1680 Marissa Star Wed, 13 Jan 2010 04:51:49 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1680 Pastor Tom, I just want to thank you on behalf of Destiny in Bloom for sharing such words of wisdom from God's heart to ours. There were so many nuggets of truth that I know I will be thinking on for days to come as I let God mold my parenting to be filled with His love for their lives. What a blessing! Thank you so much for sharing with us! ~Ris Pastor Tom,
I just want to thank you on behalf of Destiny in Bloom for sharing such words of wisdom from God’s heart to ours. There were so many nuggets of truth that I know I will be thinking on for days to come as I let God mold my parenting to be filled with His love for their lives.

What a blessing! Thank you so much for sharing with us!
~Ris

]]> By: Blynda Lane http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1677 Blynda Lane Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:32:27 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1677 Dad this is awesome! Thank you for being a Godly example to Todd and me about raising children who love God first. I'm thankful for the reminder that everything I do to love and discipline my kids is teaching them about their relationship with God. I'm so thankful for you! Love you! Blynda Dad this is awesome! Thank you for being a Godly example to Todd and me about raising children who love God first. I’m thankful for the reminder that everything I do to love and discipline my kids is teaching them about their relationship with God. I’m so thankful for you!

Love you!
Blynda

]]> By: Tomi Jarrell http://destinyinbloom.com/the-purpose-of-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-1676 Tomi Jarrell Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:46:14 +0000 http://destinyinbloom.com/?p=1281#comment-1676 Thank you for sharing from the well of wisdom and experience! I loved the statement,"be aware that when you ask you will become the learner even as you act as the teacher." A teachable spirit is what I want in my children and must first begin with me!! Thank you for sharing from the well of wisdom and experience! I loved the statement,”be aware that when you ask you will become the learner even as you act as the teacher.” A teachable spirit is what I want in my children and must first begin with me!!

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