Destiny In Bloom

Oaks, Acorns, and My Friend Silvia

Oaks, Acorns, and My Friend Silvia

posted on October 4th, 2012 / by Pam Mueller / 8 Comments

When I was a child, our side yard used to fill with hundreds of acorns every Fall. They fell from a tall, old oak tree in our neighbor’s yard. The trunk was so wide that I couldn’t fit my arms all the way around it in a hug. The tree stood taller than our two-story house. Raking leaves from that tree was a chore that the whole family shared. My brother and I loved to rake the leaves into a big pile, then run and jump right into the middle of the pile, undoing half our work so that we could rake them again. I still remember the musty, earthy smell of those leaves. I also loved the sound and the feel of the acorns crunching under my feet. I used to like to peel apart the acorns, layer ...

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First Day of School

First Day of School

posted on August 27th, 2012 / by Pam Mueller / 10 Comments

I guess I should have known it would turn out this way. You, so tall and beautiful, ready for adventures, and me, wishing I could slow the hands of time. Another school year starts today. It’s hot, like all the other summer days, but this day is set apart from the others. Today is the front door to a new set of adventures, the starting point for many of the ways you will grow in the next several months. I took your picture by the front door, as we do every year on the first day. You looked so cute in your new dress and the cool sandals you found at Target. Of course you were a little nervous, wondering about new teachers and which friends would share classes with you. But more than ...

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Best of DIB: Beautiful, Broken Masterpieces

Best of DIB: Beautiful, Broken Masterpieces

posted on July 9th, 2012 / by Pam Mueller / 2 Comments

I first saw her as I was loading groceries onto the checkout counter at WalMart. Standing there by the candy, like a child, touching several of the sweets on display, dancing as she talked to herself. Continuing with my task, I forgot about her as I talked to the cashier. She came and stood closer as her turn got nearer. With jet black hair and the face and eyes of a person that might have been born with Downs syndrome, she appeared to be twenty-something and of Asian descent. She seemed nervous as she waited, reading aloud the labels of the items stacked around the register, carefully counting and recounting her money: one dollar and some coins. I glanced to see that she was buying a ...

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In Admiration of Masculinity

In Admiration of Masculinity

posted on June 25th, 2012 / by Pam Mueller / 6 Comments

“Hehehehehehe … gasp … Hehehehehehe.” It was one of those rare, bend over and try to keep from falling kind of belly laughs that sometimes erupts when my husband and son get together. I ran outside to find out what was happening because I knew the entertainment would be worth the interruption. My husband was laughing so hard that he couldn’t speak, and my son was looking a little stunned. Boys and explosives: Always a questionable combination. They were lighting firecrackers on the snowman’s head. One of the firecrackers had a short fuse, and you can guess who decided to light it. My son complained of his ear ringing, and I had an epiphany: so that’s why my husband has ...

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You Can Tell a Lot about a Woman by the Chocolate She Keeps

You Can Tell a Lot about a Woman by the Chocolate She Keeps

posted on May 14th, 2012 / by Pam Mueller / 11 Comments

You can tell a lot about a woman by the chocolate she keeps. Some of us like Hershey bars, while others prefer M&Ms. Some girls like milk chocolate. Others want dark. Then you have the discerning palates that say there is a big difference between American-made and imported chocolate. Let’s look at some case studies in chocolate. Maybe you identify with the Twix girl. She is playful, in touch with her inner child, and she is NOT worried about her health! Or perhaps you think like the Dove dark chocolate lover. She lives with intensity, is definitely health-conscious, somewhat practical, but she needs her chocolate just the same. We certainly can’t forget about the Lindt woman: ...

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Olive Oil and Daffodils

Olive Oil and Daffodils

posted on March 28th, 2012 / by Pam Mueller / 8 Comments

I’m here to confess that I don’t like olives. I’m not sure whether it’s the flavor or the texture, but whenever I taste an olive to see if I’ve outgrown this dislike, my mouth involuntarily frowns. Yes, I know there are different varieties of olives, and I’ve tried many. But you won’t find me ordering my pizza with olives on it, and I’m not one of the family members who, at Thanksgiving time, puts olives on the ends of their fingers, and then eats them one by one. Olive oil is a different story. I love olive oil! I cook with it almost daily. It adds great flavor to so many different foods, and it’s good for my health! It doesn’t make a lot of sense to me that I ...

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Beauty in the Shadowland

Beauty in the Shadowland

posted on January 30th, 2012 / by Pam Mueller / 12 Comments

You carry beauty, and you probably don’t even know it. Not a soft, gentle beauty but a striking, daring, strong beauty. Your dark eyes are wide open, although what fish doesn’t have his eyes wide open? You dart around, fast, smart; you are more aggressive than your fish neighbors. As your fins move fast and twitchy, you seem ready for action, maybe even a fight. Ever circling, moving, gliding, it won’t be long until you dominate the tank. And then you turn just right. The iridescent blue ridge on your back flashes, the red in your tail seems brighter, your silver sides reflect a blue green for just a split second, and I don’t know how a 5 centimeter fish can have such an effect ...

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Holiday Hangover

Holiday Hangover

posted on December 26th, 2011 / by Pam Mueller / 8 Comments

Good morning. If all goes as planned, you are reading this on December 26, the day after the Big Day. Or if you celebrate Hanukkah, you have just a couple more days left. If I were reading this aloud, I would read with a whisper. I’m whispering in case you have a holiday hangover. If you have a drinking hangover, I’m sorry. You can go back to sleep now. Come back later. A holiday hangover is when you are suffering from too much holiday. Your head hurts from not enough sleep for too many nights because you have been on the “To-Do List” treadmill. Your stomach hurts from too much sugar, too much food, or too much money spent. The parties have been fun, but you are tired of the ...

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Twenty-Five

Twenty-Five

posted on November 25th, 2011 / by Pam Mueller / 6 Comments

Happy Thanksgiving! I love this holiday. All the wonderful foods combined with unhurried times with friends and family make it a special day. Macy’s parade in the morning, board games, naps and football on TV are all traditions that we come back to every year. Somewhere in all the fun, we usually pause for a moment and talk about something (or things) for which we are thankful. As an extension of that tradition, I’ve come up with my list of “25 Reasons to Give Thanks”. I’ve listed these in random order; inserted into the list, I’ve written some thoughts on thanks-giving. Holiday weekends—fun, family and rest More than enough food to eat Parents who love me Eyes that ...

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Storm Whisperer

Storm Whisperer

posted on October 12th, 2011 / by Pam Mueller / 5 Comments

Occasionally our TV remote will stumble across the show “The Dog Whisperer” with Cesar Millan. That guy is amazing! He understands the nature of dogs and can quickly modify their behavior calmly, without yelling or beating on them. I would like to introduce him to my poodle; for now, I will tell a story about the Storm Whisperer. A few months ago, I bought plane tickets to take my daughter to my niece’s Bat Mitzvah celebration. (Jews celebrate the Bar/Bat Mitzvah when a child turns thirteen. It is when they become adults in their faith.) The week of the trip, a hurricane began developing in the Atlantic and was headed for the Bahamas. Hurricane Irene was predicted to be one of the ...

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