Destiny In Bloom

Goodbye

Goodbye

posted on March 18th, 2013 / by Marissa Star / 5 Comments

Destiny in Bloom started with God speaking. Almost four years ago when the world of blogging opened up, a dim flicker, a faint sound began to emerge. When I heard it, I couldn’t help but want more, it built up hope, it was dispelling darkness. I would search the web, stalking blog sites, going on keyword hunts to find it: It was the sound of women throwing off the girdle of religious facades, beginning to write about living out their faith in God with transparency and authenticity. Words that didn’t deny the messiness of life; the humanness we experience on our way to finding God that frees others to do the same. It was through the hunger to know God in this way and see this ...

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On God and Your Body

On God and Your Body

posted on January 10th, 2013 / by Marissa Star / 21 Comments

Yes. You read that right. We are talking about God and our bodies. Yes, that human body God so ingeniously created to be the thing that we grew into, the vehicle we would occupy as we journey through our destined-before-time lives. Our bodies tell the genetic story of the lives that came before us, each one of us so full of history: the shape of our ears, the curve of our noses, even the length of our fingers taking on an essence of the lives that fused together to create our unique person, the person we see when we look in the mirror everyday. I’ve always been amazed by the human body, how intricate and unique each one of us is. There is not one like another. Bodies; they are ...

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Grace in Conflict

Grace in Conflict

posted on November 26th, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 12 Comments

Conflict. If you are alive (which I gather you are, because you are reading this), you’ve realized that this word is unavoidable. It’s not a dirty little word. It’s actually, if looked at differently, an amazing opportunity … really! It’s an amazing opportunity for a couple of things. Dealing with conflict in a relationship has the amazing ability to bring people closer together. It also has the amazing ability to create a great divide. The difference is in our responses to conflict, to the people involved and to the mirror conflict uses to show us what is in our own heart, if we dare to look. Conflict harnessed and maneuvered through correctly can be a very ...

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Screwed Up

Screwed Up

posted on September 26th, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 17 Comments

“Marissa and I started our relationship with a plethora of baggage. We both came from broken families. We were both ex-drug addicts. We were both hurt at one point or another. We like to say we were broken. In fact, we still say that today. We know we are still a work in progress. I think it was the fact that we told each other we were broken that gave us a realistic starting point in our relationship. We knew that our marriage would have a rough start. We knew that we would have to work out our issues. And we knew that it was going to be a lot of work. Because of our past, we knew the ideal of a “perfect marriage” was simply not ever going to happen. In many ways I think that the ...

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When I Said Less, He Did More!

When I Said Less, He Did More!

posted on August 15th, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 7 Comments

When God put it on my heart to write about this hole in our faces--you know, the hole that words come out of--I thought, "Really Lord? Me? I get to talk about the beauty of holding one’s tongue? You know who this is right?! Your girl with the special talent to be the one still talking (loudly) when the room goes silent, um … talking to my girlfriends about a sale at our favorite store and how much I love my new pink bra! Umm … Yeah, that would be me Lord!" And that would be only one example. I am the queen of trying to rein back my words in mid-air after they come flying out of my mouth without thinking. I can see myself in slow motion reaching out with my hands for them saying, ...

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Best of DIB: Companionship, SEX and the Honor Experiment

Best of DIB: Companionship, SEX and the Honor Experiment

posted on July 25th, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 6 Comments

Have you ever been with your girlfriends having a great night out and one of them starts taking pictures to remember the fun evening and after the cute smiling pictures inevitably someone suggests a picture where you all strike a sexy pose?   I have. And I have friends that are really good at taking these kind of pictures, one will throw her shoulders back and puff her chest out a little, one will give the “facebook-made-famous” pouty lips and yet another will rock her alluring eyes while I stand their completely and utterly DORKIFIED. Simply because I can’t do sexy! Oh I’ve tried, only to look hideously ridiculous!!! So I’ve officially stopped trying. My lack of  the ability ...

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Best of DIB: I Am Not What I Weigh

Best of DIB: I Am Not What I Weigh

posted on July 13th, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 10 Comments

WARNING: Fat pictures of me inside! I must say from the start, knowing this is a sensitive subject for women, that this article is more about having a skinny heart than having a skinny "bod". I’ve hesitated for a long time writing about this only because I didn’t want to be the “poster child” for weight loss. However, when you give everything to Jesus (every part of your life and heart) and He decides it’s time to give testimony to what He has done, well it becomes more about Him and less about me. So please read my story that way. Please read my story through the lenses of His grace and His tremendous love for you. I pray you share in the revelation of your great worth and value ...

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Bringing Sexy Back

Bringing Sexy Back

posted on June 27th, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 14 Comments

Have you ever been walking through a mall or grocery store and the song playing in the back ground while you're shopping totally gives you earworm, regardless of whether you like it or not, know it or not? (An earworm is a piece of music that sticks in one's mind so that one seems to hear it, even when it is not being played.) Well, I’ll admit it! I have. This can be very dangerous when you’re a mother of four younger children. Well, depending on the song, of course. Not so long ago I was shopping for an outfit and the store was rockin’ Justin Timberlake’s radio version of Sexy Back over the loud speakers. As much as I’m not for or against pop music, truthfully, I ...

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Reframed

Reframed

posted on April 4th, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 14 Comments

There is something crazy about the power of our memories and the fact that we were created to make them that amazes me. I can still remember the encouragement and smile of my first grade teacher, Mrs. Anderson. I just don’t remember it … I feel the memory … the way her affirmation felt and the way my heart responded to it are forever seared in my memory. That’s just one ‘feel good’ memory that could be framed and placed next to other loving memories on the mantle of my heart. It would be really fabulous if all we had were stellar memories of growing up and of life’s struggles, but the truth is that as diverse as all our lives are, each one of us has had painful memories ...

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Look Up Review

Look Up Review

posted on April 2nd, 2012 / by Marissa Star / 7 Comments

I have a pre-teen-er. He is a boy. He is in that age window between 10-12 years old. Cartoons have lost their edge, on most days, and his draw to music and activities that express his individuality have begun to define his interests. He is not a little boy anymore but he is also not a teenager. I totally don’t mind the new pre-teen definition because finally there is a spot for these kids that they can own without feeling like they are striving for that ‘teenager’ status which they can’t make come any sooner even if they try. I like the idea of respecting this season and enjoying the transition into more maturity on the outside and the inside. So, when Gateway Create from ...

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